Couples Counseling, Marriage Therapy, & Sex Therapy for Couples in Minnesota

I’m Nicolle Dirksen, M.A. (she/her),
Sex and Couples Therapist in Minnesota.

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You never thought you’d need a couples therapist.

When you and your partner started dating, things were amazing! You had so much in common, your communication was great, and your sex life was fireworks.

But now, those days feel like ancient history and here you are, struggling to connect. That spark has been replaced with the same old arguments, growing resentment, and you’re feeling more like roommates than partners.

If you're convinced it doesn't have to be this way, you're right.

I help couples just like you identify negative conflict patterns, navigate betrayal and infidelity, and have better sex.

Listen, I understand. Talking about the most important relationship in your life to a total stranger is awkward and vulnerable. I show up as my authentic self so that you feel safe to do the same. I will laugh with you, cuss with you, and cheer you on along the way.

If you're ready to break out of the cycle you've been stuck in and reignite the spark, I'm ready to help.

Reach out for a free 15-minute video consultation so we can meet and figure out a path forward to your best relationship.

I’m excited to meet you!

Learn more about me here.

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But reach out about whatever is going on in your relationship. I’m here to help!

conflict & communication

Fighting in circles, arguing about the same things over and over, and feeling like you're speaking different languages? Learn how to improve communication and have healthy conflict discussions that bring you closer together rather than widening the gap between you.

conflict and communication therapy

conflict and communication

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sex and intimacy

When the sex and intimacy in your relationship is struggling, it can quickly impact the rest of it. If you’re starting to feel like glorified roommates because you can’t remember the last time there was any romance in your lives, I can help.

sex and intimacy therapy

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betrayal and infidelity

betrayal and infidelity therapy

When someone breaks the trust in your relationship, it can feel like the entire world is crumbling and you’ll never be able to trust again. It may feel like there’s nothing left but hurt and regret. You don’t have to go through it alone.

discernment counseling

discernment counseling

If you and your partner are on the brink of divorce or separation and one of you is leaning in to the relationship while the other is leaning out, discernment counseling may be the right choice for you.

Ready for the relationship you’ve always wanted?

  • Schedule a free consultation with me. It’s important to me that you and your partner feel comfortable with your therapist, and I’ll help you decide if we’re the right fit to work together. If not, I’ll dig into my network to give you some referrals and do my best to help you find the right fit.

  • We’ll begin meeting on a regular basis so that we can get to the root of your concerns and work on strategies for managing and improving them.

  • My goal is that you leave each of our sessions with something tangible you can put into action. Over time, you’ll look back and see just how far you’ve come.

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Ready to rebuild?